why women are not allowed to do any mistake, Yes, I mean “the mistakes of life”!. Yes, why we, (society) relate women dignity with the dignity of her whole family. The justification for this, given by “the called neighbours” is, we Indians respect woman equal to god and, women are so special and holy as the universe. And this world, gives unnecessary burden to a girl child from her age of 6, but calls a girls child, as burden themselves. This is a paradox actually, so now, she is burden to society or society is to her?!!!.(who cares!)
The whole life of women is spend in the fear of maintaining the dignity of her family than her desires. And what’s wrong in doing mistakes. I mean, what’s wrong to fell down and get back in right track again. I literally feel, no wrong in doing mistake, untill you realise it. And do you know something, this stereotype, not only stop a women from doing a simple mistake, but also have high adverse effect for the one who fortunately do mistakes. That is, the period of recovery is so hideous, that it push her into the worm hole of pain, which makes her a single dimensional being, who is unaware of how to get out of it. And inability to realise that her mistake has some lessons to be learned.
So, here comes a personal experience, which I love to share with all of my fellow followers. There was a brave, cute and beautiful woman in a city. And she is so bold enough to handle all serious situation as cool as possible. I was one of her admirer.And she is 18 and I’m 10. I usually copy her brave acts and imply them in life. So, I could say, i was such a big admirer of her. And also she has so much love and respect for her family.
Like everyone, she also found her love of her life. And she was happy with him, and ignorant of his true intentions. There came, this time in her life, ” the revealation of love of her life to her family”. Her intention was to get her parents permission and blessings and join the hands of her love. But, as per TYPICAL INDIAN PARENTS, love is a sick word to be pronounced. As expected, there were much big opposition and emotional drama going up in her life. So, one day she was about to step out of her home to lead a life with her love. That was a day, she discovered the real face of her love. So, what happened is, she called him, and told that, she will be coming with only certificates of her degree and no extra clothes or money with her. ’cause she is not interested in having her dad’s money in hand. And at that moment, her love of her life,stopped her to come and told her to take money and jewels. And she opposed by saying, that she have her degree and she also has her average salary job in her hand and that they can manage to live. But he strongly insisted to take up all her dad’s money from her home.
At the moment, she discovered that he only need money, not her love. And she was completely broken and for the first time in her life, she lost hope completely in her life. The person who she believed completely after her dad is “him”. And she could not believe that this is happening to her. And her parents were happy about her decision to broke up with him.
And you see, she is completely broken now. And added to that, what her love did is, he posted all their pictures in Facebook and send them to all her blood relatives to shame her. And all her neighbours and relatives were labeling her with names. And she was devastated and lost hope in people completely. And this incident affected her family members too. And her family were in hurry to arrange an marriage alliance for her to save their dignity of their family.
But without even thinking about her mental health. And her family also cornered her by saying that she embarrassed her whole family and broken the dignity of her family. But even after acquiring all these labels, she loved her family endlessly and married the one whom her dad told to.
And she was married happily as the will of her family. But her mental health has fallen into the horizon of black hole. So she don’t find any way to return back. And she’s happy outside and dying inside, of her one mistake she made in life.
Does choosing a wrong life partner in life is that wrong?. Why most of the women are not given a second chance!. And now, I couldn’t find the old brave cute girl anywhere in her.
So I’m asking this society to give back my brave lady to me. Can you? And i want her happy mental health back, can you help me in that? And I’m accuse you for killing her true self. Yes you are! You are!.. Do you know what’s her last words before her marriage is ” See, women are not allowed to make mistakes in her life, if you do, then you need to regret it for your entire life . So keerthana, be cautious about your decision in life”. With tears rolling down her cheek.
Please don’t ruin another brave girl’s life..Give her time and space to heal herself and get back.